Lisa T

I've been anorexic from age 13 - 15, then received treatment. I only got my period one or two times before it stopped again, and I started menstruating again only at age 17. This means 5 years of no menstruation. Now I'm 26 with regular periods (even quite strong and painful). Do any of you have medical experience with this situation? I wonder if my fertility might still be decreased, even though I'm getting my period. I'm also kind of asking because I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for roughly one year now, and even though we're not planning on getting pregnant we would welcome if it happened, but it hasn't so far.

Further info: have been on the pill for two years prior.

Thanks for any information!

Seit ca. 2 Wochen stemmen meine werten Nachbarn von oben anscheinend ihre gesamte Wohnung auf. Besonders vormittags, oft schon ab 8 Uhr gibt es wirklich ohrenbetäubenden Lärm von Bohrmaschinen und Hämmern. Die Wände sind generell dünn, also ist es wirklich schlimm. Auf halbwegs normaler Zimmerlautstärke fernsehen oder Musikhören kann ich vergessen, das meiste wird durch den Baulärm verschluckt. Die einzige Lösung wäre, tagsüber aus der Wohnung zu verschwinden, aber ich arbeite von zuhause aus!

Laut Nachbarn wird es noch ein paar Wochen dauern, keine genaue Angabe....?!

Weiß jemand, wie die Rechtslage dazu aussieht? Ruhezeit ist ja anscheinend bis 6 Uhr morgens, aber kann einem zugemutet werden, ab 8 Uhr einen solchen Läm bis ca. 16 Uhr zu ertragen? Ich werde hier wirklich noch wahnsinnig! Und Mietminderung bringt mir eigentlich auch nichts. Was nützt es, einen Hunderter weniger zu bezahlen, wenn man trotzdem durchdreht?

Hilfe!

I've been with a guy for two years now, and it's been a very rocky relationship. He has done so many things that have hurt me so bad, including hitting me twice and controlling me constantly. He is so damn good at manipulating, he always manages to give me the feeling that I'm so wrong and he is always right. And I followed everything he said just that I don't lose him, because he threatened to leave me all the time. I made a submissive fool out of myself. At least it's how I feel, he sees it completely differently.

It's getting better now, for the past month I've had the feeling he actually listens to me, has some respect for me, I don't live in constant fear anymore. But I can't forget the things that have happened even though we talked about them and he kind of understands my viewpoint now and has even apologized. I still can't forgive. And while he understands that he has done some wrong he doesn't understand the damage he's done to me.

It's bizarre: when I'm alone (which is rare, he wants to have me around all the time) I feel such a hatred towards this person, I feel imprisoned and tortured and think of him as the worst person on earth, but nevertheless I keep coming back to him, like he put a spell on me. I'm in constant fear when I'm alone, and I always have a bad conscience when demanding to be alone (which is actually something I really have to fight for). But then when we are together I'm in love with him again and I see all his qualities and think that I could never leave him. It's those two sides in me.

Now he wants us to move in together, and I've promised him to do so because it's the logical thing to do. We spend most of the time with each other anyways. Now it's only ten days until he has to move out of his current apartment, and I don't know what to do. I can't lose him, but on the other hand the thought of moving in together fills me with terror. It literally makes me sick. Eve though nothing bad has happened for quite some time now, I can't relax around him and I have a constant headache. Everything in me screams "Don't move in together, you will be robbed of the last bits of your privacy!". But I can't do it. We've even talked about our fears, but he thinks it will be fine if we try it, and I also thought I might even get a little more freedom if we would live together because we wouldn't have to make "appointments" every day and I could come and go a littlebit more freely. And I thought maybe it would work, and if it wouldn't I would finally have the strength to leave him.

So what should I do?

Tomorrow we're looking at an apartment that seems perfect, and we are going to take it if it's as good in reality as on pictures. Then I'm trapped because I can't let him down now that he is forced to move out. I've tried telling him that I would rather stay separate for another couple of months, but he always tricks me into having a bad conscience and I say yes again.

I don't know what to do. Saying no tomorrow means losing him for good, I know it. And I can't. Even though I most of the time think that I'd rather be with no one and I'd rather live my life again, I can't let him go. It's like I'm addicted to him.

I'm thinking of the worst when we should really move in together. It feels like giving up the last part of myself. But I won't be able to decide against it.

Please do any of you have any suggestions what to do?

I'm scared.

In the last couple of weeks I had recurrent dreams or dream patterns. I dream of waking up and I see everything just the way it really is, I lie in my bed, it is dark, there is my boyfriend and the pillows and everything. But I'm not really awake. Then I sometimes feel like I'm suffocating, and I want to cry for help desperately, but no sound is coming from my mouth. It is so real. The I either fall back asleep, or I force myself to really wake up which is really difficult. It feels like shaking a ton of weight off me. Then I'm scared and my heart is racing. I made sure I wasn't really awake by asking the boyfriend if I called him. I didn't.

Some other time I also had the same experience without the suffocating, but the waking up part, and I thought I'd see my boyfriend staring at me in the dark when he really wasn't. It scared me to death to apparently wake up and see someone in the dark with his eyes wide open, staring at me.

I also start to be scared of falling asleep because this little looking-like-waking-up episodes recur a couple of times a night, so I have a very disturbed sleep.

Another thing that bothers me is that I'm very tired during the day, but every time I might fall asleep I wake with a pounding heart and deadly scared just before I can really doze off. I can't really explain, it's like every time I begin to relax there is something that scares me extremely and then I go back to being awake and concentrated.

What could all that mean? What should I do?

Thanks everybody!

I know according to its biochemical structure, milk is supposed to have a positive effect on my mood, but in fact since my childhood I instantly became sad when I would drink warm milk. Cold milk is not so bad.