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My cousin is married for some months. It is an arranged marriage. However, her husband did not consummated the marriage with her, as he needs time to get to know her, before physically getting involved. He gave her excuses and this has made her frustrated. I heard from her that she had then made friend with a guy from facebook and he gave her really good listening ear. He shared the guy's point of view to her. The friendship developed further and she ended up having sex with this friend.

Now, her husband is initiating for sex. However, she feels confused and guilty. When she came to me crying and confused, I really did not know what to advice her. She confessed that she had sex for more than 20 times with her guy-friend. Now when her husband tries to get fresh with her after 4 months, she is not able to bring herself for it.

What can I advice her. Please do not say divorce, its not possible as she is from an Orthodox family who do not allow divorce. How can I advice her. Please help.

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My cousin is married for 4 months. However, her husband did not consummated the marriage with her. He gave her excuses and this has made her frustrated. I heard from her that she had then made friend with a guy from the net and he gave her really good listening ear. He shared the guy's point of view to her. The friendship developed further and she ended up having sex with this friend.

Now, her husband is initiating for sex. However, she feels confused and guilty. When she came to me crying and confused, I really did not know what to advice her. She confessed that she had sex for more than 20 times with her guy-friend. Now when her husband tries to get fresh with her after 4 months, she is not able to bring herself for it.

What can I advice her. Please do not say divorce, its not possible as she told me she does not wish to divorce her husband and loves him alot.

Now I am confused and I need help to advice her. Please help.

My husband is a gentle lover, he loves to go slow. But, I always love this fantasy of being raped by my husband. I wanna feel helpless and weak. But that has never happened. I tried telling that to him but no difference at all. How can I get him to overpower me?

My husband at times is loving and caring. He treats me with expensive meals and we go to many fancy places. But he has this bad habit that when I eat something, he says that I will surely get diabetes, high blood pressure, cancer, etc.

He will at times mock by telling me that I should die so that he will be able to gain insurance money and will be debt free. When I don't respond, he says that I am so sensitive?

I am so confussed....what is wrong with him? I don't enjoy his crude jokes and have told him so. What can I do?

I love him alot, but can't stand this attitude.