Is it ok to show up at your girlfriends doorstep without calling?

After 3 years if you can't drop by unannounced, then something is wrong.

Unless, she lives with her parents, then a courtesy call should be done for their benefit, before going by.

You did the right thing, you were in the neighborhood and decided to stop by. You were only showing her that she was on your mind at the time. If she mentions something as you are saying then your probably right about her hiding something. Come on you have been together for three years. What happens when you do marry her, are you going to have to call before you can come home? Just inform her that you are always thinking about her and love seeing her weather or not you call first or just show up at the doorstep.

Dude, are you that dense? not for nothing, but if you are planning to marry someone, and they react with, "Its not wise to show up at my doorstep without callin", then HE|| YEAH, shes hiding something.

Has she just started doing this? In other words, have you EVER dropped by before and she was okay with it? If so, then maybe she is trying to hide something that is for the wedding, like her dress.

BUT, and this is a big BUT, if she's never been cool with it, or you just felt really weird, then dontcha think she maybe hiding someone else?

Does she ever get calls in your presence, and kinda put on a cheery tone and say, look kinda busy I'll have to call you back? And when you ask who it is, it's always the same person? Or, and i like using this one myself, just not bring her phone with, when she's with you?

Man, if you think she's doing something, then, before you proceed, you need to sit down with her and have a heart to heart. If you still get a skewed sense from her about the whole thing,

sh|t dude, you really need to find out what the deal is.

I'm not saying to stalk her ***, but, as this is someone you plan to share the rest of your life with, I'd ask a close friend to kinda check up on her once or twice. just to set aside the feelings of her hiding something.

3 years and planning on getting married is a very serious relationship. I think you should be able to stop by without calling. There is a chance that she is hiding something from you but you shouldn't jump to conclusions. Your best bet is to ask her why you need to call and if she cant give you a good reason then there me be something more.

Hooooooooly **** no. Did she look pregnant? If she changed into pregnant earlier you broke up, she'd probable be close to to 5 months now, you'd be able to inform. Why would not she favor both of your mum and dad to understand? Why did she wait 4 months to allow you to recognize it really is yours? there are such extremely some issues incorrect with this.

It should be perfectly fine. If she is this private of a person, then she needs to rethink marrying you. There is no good reason why you shouldn't be able to pop up on someone you love and have been dating for years. That's BS, imo. I don't mind when my bf pops up on me. In fact, I like it. It makes me feel like he's been thinking about me and didn't want to wait to call. He just wanted to be right there.....I take it that way and I'm a private person. I'm also an only child who likes to have things her way...Talk to her and see what happens, but imo, she is wrong.

We want you to call so we can fix up. We don't want you to see us all tore up. All of us ain't hiding nothing. Some of us are embarrassed for you to see us not looking or smelling our best.

Anyway, you ain't coming home. Ya'll ain't married yet. It's just good decent courtesy to call before coming over someone's house no matter how long you've been engaged.

She is a freak, don't just get married like that because she hiding something from you and you've being together for 3yrs she suppose to be glad whenever she sees you. Be smart and don't let her be tricking you.

I think she's hiding something. I mean c'mon, you guys have been together for 3 years... you should practically have a dang key to her house LOL. I would be excited if my b/f showed up randomly to visit me. I think she has some explaining to do...

i love when my boyfriend shows up out of the blue

i think it shows how spontaneous he is, but then again i have nothing to hide and as long as he doesn't expect me to look like I'm a princess when he does show up, then I'm cool with it

it sounds like she could be hiding or she just doesn't like surprises.

but either way you need to talk to her about it and watch her body language to see how she really feels