my mom never supports any of my decisions.. I'm 22!?

Your mother is just concerned for your and your kid's welfare. Regardless of your age, she would always look out for you. Please bear that in mind.

Maybe if you can just put yourself in your mom's shoes you'll understand why sometimes she may be overprotective, you're a mother too yourself so you should probably know this. Remember you have a kid, so it basically adds to her burden of worrying over you as now, she has concerns for both you and your kid.

Maybe office administration is not a good course after all? remember, the business corporate field is a demanding job, unless you're a grad from a reputable University, chances of getting a job in that field are slim. Unless you only want to be a secretary or something but that obviously can't support a family..

But I can't blame you, you're 22. Yes, you're old enough but you still make stupid decisions. From my perspective, and please don't take it the wrong way, having a kid at that point of age is a stupid decision. Your bf obviously can't support you. ADMIT IT! And you are just overwhelmed by this responsibilty mentality that I know would not probably work out

Trust me, your mom knows what's best for you. even if you are already 22, 45, 67 or even when she's already in her deathbed, the one person that would always be in her mind is you.

Be happy that your mom is still around.

I miss my mom, every single day...

My response to yours:

Geez lady, I'm not at all judging you. Did I say something bad? Maybe YES - but I'm not pointing out to you, but to your boyfriend who can't even stand up and be a man! Acting so defensive is a sign of guilt. Did I touched a nerve? Pardon me.

Look, I was just trying to help. Is it wrong to give my two cents that Office Admin is a bad career choice? Then maybe you should have not asked anyone's advice or help here in Yahoo Answers. We are just ordinary people too you know, not some Dr. Phil or counselor that is being paid for. I showed my sincerity but you bashed it back. Thanks a lot, ungrateful lady.

Office admin is popular in Canada..? Really, I never heard knew that.. thanks for informing me. Here in the US, unless you're an Ivy League grad, Office admin would just end you up typing papers and taking orders from bosses all day. and the competition is pretty tough too.

I'm not here to argue. I've even read your question twice before answering but you obviously misinterpreted my answer. You can even see the tone in my answer that I'm not even arguing with you. Maybe when your mother gives you advices, you don't listen and instead bash her sincerity. Now you should probably know why your mom could not let you go.

If you think that I'm arguing with you, Pardon me. But you started it.

Wish you all the best. Raise your child properly so that he would not commit the same mistake that you did.

It sounds like to me you have a very controlling mother and she is afraid for you, or just don't trust your boyfriend.

Maybe she knows more about him than you know and she knows if she tells you, you wouldn't believe her anyway.

Still sounds like she is used to controlling things around the house including you and if you have a father in the household even him.

So if you can allow yourself to at least keep most of your plans to yourself and your friends till you are ready to move out, you would be much better off, yes you should stay till you can finish school and work things out with your mother and the boyfriend.

How does he feel about this problem with your mother?

Is he willing to wait 6 more months? Does he want you to marry him after you move to the city?

When you talk about the plans you have does he agree and do you both have the same goals?

You still need to show your mother respect, after all she gave you all that you have including a home and free babysitting.

So at least go along with her for a short time as much as you until you are ready and packed.

Don't worry she will get over it and if not, be aware, because she is getting to attached to your son and this could mean trouble for you

later! And I know you don't want or need that from your own mother.

So beware of what she is willing to do for the sake of her grandson. She may even want to take you to court and get your rights taken away.

Don't think it hasn't been done, it has before with other daughter's.

Your mother I'm sure loves you, but she may not be thinking clearly when it comes to your baby.

Do you and this young man plan on getting married and is he the boy's father?

If so then if he is willing to marry you and give this child a father and a family, then your mother should be happy for you and if not, then she needs to at least think of the child first and what is best for him, not her.

Move out as soon as you're done with school. If you don't put an end to her control now, it'll just get worse and you're not going to grow yourself. Let her know that you appreciate her opinion, but your your mental and emotional sanity, you want to take control over your own life and you're old and mature enough to take care of yourself. Sure, you'll make your own mistakes, but you'll learn from them. That's the only way you'll grow, by taking responsibility for your own actions and having control over your own life and by learning from your own mistakes (not your mom's mistakes)

ADDED DETAILS: I have a friend who's 32 (or 33?) and lives with her mom. she has the same problem, except she's let this go on for too long. she doesn't see anything wrong with this, but her mom seems just like yours. For a long time her mom did not let her daughter make her own decisions (even after she was 18) and always underestimated her. Now her daughter, in her 30's is afraid to make her own decisions. She's afraid of what will happen when she is away from her mother. Her mother makes almost all the decisions for her. She doesn't have many friends because she's so attached to her mother. At 22, she knew that she needed to go and that her mother was babying her, but she was so influenced by her mother that she ended up staying with her, and now she thinks her relationship with her mother is normal. I know you love your mom, but if you let her make all of your decisions, you';; be harming yourself. Besides, by moving out, you might be doing your mom a favor in the long run. There's a chance that if you stay with her, she'll want to become dependent on you too. By moving out, you might encourage her own independence (as well as yours). She might hold a grudge against you for a while, but she'll be grateful eventually.

Well it is your life isnt it.

It could be something to do with her history with how she was raised or how you were raised it could be that it is important for her to make sure things are very good that you can do everything without needing her.

Does she do your laundry, does she cook?

How do you contribute to the house? You may need to take on a lot more responsibility. If are already, than it may be she has her view points about how life truly is believe me i understand my ma is the same but its ultimately my choice, i have my own place, i understand my moms values about friendship because i myself have experienced friendship, its not all its cracked up to be.

I dont feel like i cant do things on my own though. You just need to get over this hurdle, cause in reality what you hear your mom is like it gets to you because you feel you need to do certain things.

I too have been there, just do it move out for a bit but make sure you have the financial backing. I had 2 jobs when i did that.

Best of luck its not as bad as it seems, plus its better to be with family than with friends. But go out and explore make a life for yourself it doesnt mean you have to be stuck with your parents.

You are back at school as a single mum, kudo's to you. mum sounds very controlling, that would just drive me up the wall. I left home at 16 after a fight with my mum. she is my rock now and I'm 42. She has a darling 2yr old grand daughter, (not mine, my little brother's who is 28) she never interferes unless she is asked. she Is the matriach of the family, (I am the eldest of 6) and very much loved. I can't imagine a mum not encouraging their child in what-ever they wish to do. I don't understand about the whole "not letting me move" thing! You have to do whats right for your child. You are going to have to get more assertive with her! That doesn't mean you have to be be rude to her. I don't think I'm explaining myself very well but I wish you the best of luck.

Okay, My used to never support me until i talked to her, When you finish school, university, have a job and you're responsible enough to take decisions move out, But make sure to visit her show her you care, Also make sure she knows that your independent and responsible that's how your parents trust you, And then just tell her you need her support, Dont argue just sit down and talk to her nicely she loves you she'll understand

Sit her down and tell her:

Look Mom, I'm 22 years old and trying to make something of my life. I understand that you are concerned for me and my son, and that you have your opinions, but it is MY life, not yours. I would love to have you be one of the biggest parts of my life and my sons life, but by putting me down all the time and second guessing my decisions you are making me feel bad, AND I WILL NOT LIVE LIKE THAT. If you want to be an important part of my life you will have to give me some respect, as I respect you, BUT I WILL NOT LET YOU RUN MY LIFE.

im 20 i live alone with my little girl but always worry how my mum will react but its your own life at the end of the day you have to live it. best thing you could do is move out asap

I didn't read your whole thing there, but did you ever stop and think maybe she knows something you don't?

wow you're 22 and still care what your mom thinks