which do you think is worse?

I was forced to show horses as a kid...I hated it!

I wish they had made me take piano lessons instead!

My kids now want lessons and such but I can't afford it!

You're talking about taking classes outside of school hours right? I think it depends on the classes and how they're chosen. If parents are signing kids up for stuff just for the sake of keeping them busy then that's bad. If they're doing it with a goal in mind then that's good.

I think it's too bad that some families can't afford to enroll their kids in extra-curricular learning opportunities, or just can't work it into their schedule. I guess I'd need clarification on what you really mean by "refuse to let you learn anything out of school". There are always opportunities to learn outside of school, through books, the internet, and (good, educational) television. You just have to look harder for those opportunities. If you really want to learn about something then you seek out ways to do so.

Regarding music - my mother had the same view. I'm a gifted singer but never went anywhere with it. I'm glad now because I have perspective on life and it's just not such a big deal. Yes, it's my passion but my life wasn't ruined because I couldn't take piano lessons. I could do that now if I really wanted to but it's just not as important to me now as it was then. No, I never got to live the life of a pop star - but I wouldn't want to now either - knowing what I know. Don't linger on it too much. Just make the most of the educational opportunities that you do have. You're still young and have lots of time to learn whatever you want. You don't have to start taking lessons at age 8 to be a success in music. You just have to work a bit harder. Once you get to college (if you decide to go), you will have plenty of opportunities.

Parents who refuse to let you learn anything out of school. That's wrong in my opinion. The child should have a right to learn as much as they possible can...but forcing them to go for all sorts of classes is somewhat good. At least the parents show interest in their child and only want the best for them. It will pay off in the end ;]

I think that it is good that your parents are even involved with your life. Do you know how many kids are out there, that have no guidance? They want the best for you. It may seem miserable right now, but you're going through alot of changes at your age, and nothing seems fair. I wouldn't want a bunch of classes pushed on me though....hmmm. get an after school job, but most important STAY IN SCHOOL

Definitly parents who refuse to let you learn anything. Parents are supposed to give every opportunity for success to their children and by refusing you an education, they are making sure your future is limited because of your lack of education. While taking all sorts of classes is probably a little overkill, better too much than too little.

Parents that force you to go to all sorts of classes. You can learn anything you want outside of school-maybe not through fancy classes or whatever it is you are talking about but if you want to learn it bad enough or learn about it bad enough then you will find a way.

Being forced to go to to many classes of any kind causes people to get worn out and nothing is any fun anymore.

Knowledge is everything. Thomas Edison wouldn't have invented the light bulb if he didn't seek knowledge. On the other hand, it depends on what The parents are not letting the individual "learn". If it is something that goes against moral obligation, then trust me, they know what they are doing. Parents have been through a lot more that you probably give them credit for. Hope this helps.

Your patent's love you and want the best for you even if you can't see it right now. Education is very important. You just don't see that right now. If you feel miserable, find some extracurricular activities to join. It would be a win win situation. Find something you like and enjoy, and your parents will chill because its educational, and you'll be out of the house and having a good time. Good Luck!!!

I will tell you this...The more you learn is better. i wish my mom would had put me all different classes outside of school. That way I would be doing better in college. I know you think it might be miserable, but in the long run it's not. Only learning things in school is not that good. They sometimes don't teach you what you will need outside of school! So, learning in both-outside and inside is better.

I know your question is about which one is worse, my vote is for the first situation.

But imagine the deadly combination of both. Parents who refuse to let you learn what you really like but force you to go for classes you don't enjoy.

Parents who refuse to let you learn.