How much should we spend on the wedding gift?

Well you can't not give them anything because you know they would take that the wrong way.

I say just give them the same amount they spent on you, $50. They should understand hopefully that you did have to spend some money to come to their wedding! Otherwise, just get them a gift off of their registry in the $50 range.

That is a tough situation, but it sucks because there is really no way around it for you guys, you will have to fork out money no matter what!

Good Luck! :)

$50

Are they registered anywhere? If they are just purchase something from the registry. If not then personally I would just give cash. I had ppl fly to my wedding from Vegas, California, Puerto Rico and Florida. Some gave me $50 and others up to $300 I was greatful no matter what.

Typically when giving cash they say you should at least cover the plate cost but with all you are spending to travel anything you can afford it good.

In my experience, that's just sort of the deal with weddings. I was just in my best friend's wedding, and in addition to paying for the dress, hair, makeup, shower, and bachelorette party, I was also expected to shell out $50 for both a shower gift, and a wedding gift. There's not really any way around it, it seems like that's wedding etiquette.

I would say whatever you can afford no more the $50

$25 seems fair. they should already understand that you have spent a ton of money as it is