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☼ Shm ☼
Lv 4
☼ Shm ☼ asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

Is it hard for you to make close friends?

I have *come and go* friends and zero close friends... I don't know what wrong with me, i'm a quiet guy not really outgoing as teenager does, love to help people, they appreciate my help but just pissed like just not interested to chat with me, just a quick chat... i'm weird.. In college when boredom my brain was blank don't know what to talk about. Really hard for me to make close friends with teenagers as my age. But i don't have problem be friends with older generation. I feel like i'm outdated..... whyyyyyyyy

Update:

Yea, i'm not a fashionable person and not a person that love to "enjoy" smoke & drink stuffs...i love "get to work" to exploring... i hate my life

Update 2:

Getting their trust to be my best friend is the tough thing. My classmates tends like being friends with "naughty", "funny", "talkative" and "enjoyable" pll.

Update 3:

Thanks all really touch reading your answers... nobody will hear my problem other then my family & you all... this happens to me since i was a child till now i'm 20.

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  • Colonel
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    Hello, and congrats upon a very interesting question - and in my view a courageous one, too. Well asked!

    I certainly wouldn't worry too much about not having close friends! In my long life - and I really am a lifetime older than you - I do not have what I would call a close friend. Plenty of associates, yes, but that's all they really are. And. on the whole, as an individualist, that's how I prefer it.

    You are highly intelligent and that's precisely why you have no problem in making friends with the older generation. That is to be admired, actually, in my view. You are not, repeat, NOT outdated in any way. Remember that God made you, and if you are good enough for Him - and you ARE - then you are more than good enough for the rest of us mere mortals. Agreed? Great!

    Please do not hate your life! Think of all your endearing qualities - qualities which are yours and yours alone. I can recognise these qualities and, if I can, so can others.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with you - nothing at all You are simply being yourself - and what is wrong with that? Nothing at all.

    Lovely meeting you. If you feel it will help to chat this over, you are most welcome - and I sure that others will make the same offer.

    Regards.

  • Buzz Buzz!!
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Try to find someone with common interests. Join clubs, and stuff like that to meet new people.

    A lot of people consider me their best friend, and stuff, but I consider none of them mine, because they aren't trustworthy. Their is this one guy who I consider closer then the rest, but we don't talk much anymore, because we don't have the same friends. =/

  • Dominick Koczara
    1 decade ago

    Maybe you have nothing in common with your generation so you like the older generations better. examine everything in your life that you like. like music and how you dress thats maybe why

  • Keya
    1 decade ago

    hey... ur nt outdated..! n making close frndz.. is nt that so hard.. ! ur nt interested in goin out... then invite them to ur home... n when u get blank.. jst listen wat others r talking.. u see only good listners can become good frndz to others.. bcoz they can share all the problems wid u...n once they trust u.. u wil become their best frnd.. so stop keep worrying.. ok ! all the best.

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