How do I loosen her up?

Question

So there is this girl at my school and we often hang with the same group of friends, but we seldom talk to each other. I can tell that she likes me, and I kinda like her too, but she's always nervous and stammering when around me or when I try to talk to her. How can I get her to be less tensed and be more relaxed around me? Also, I'm quite a shy guy and she's also shy, so our interactions are often very awkward...

Update:

I've chatted with her on Facebook and our virtual conversations are fine, it's the real life conversations that are very awkward.

Constipated · Accepted Answer

Do something you both enjoy.

I am a VERY shy person too, my boyfriend knew that and he knows that I enjoy playing video games.
So he decided to play an excited video game, and you have no idea how intense I got. I started screaming, shouting, just being so active and open. It did change a lot for me and him, because it loosened me up.

Just do something you both are comfortable with, or something totally exciting like an amusement park or a movie (and after that you guys go to dinner and talk about the movie).

Bri · Answer

Honestly, if she isn't willing to at least open up enough to have a conversation with you than she isn't work the work. If she really does like you she would be trying to talk to you all the time. On the other hand since you are shy as well it could be that she thinks that you do not like her because you won't talk to her. 

Maybe you should try talking to her over text or Facebook just to break the ice and find out what you have in common, that way next time you talk you will have something to talk about. 

On the contrary, if it was meant to be the conversation would flow non-stop. I have experienced this many times with my long term relationships (3+ years). 

Good Luck!

? · Answer

Try to get her number or Facebook or whichever , And get to know her so she can be more comfortable with you . Or take her out on a date

How do I loosen her up?

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