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Why do some women with kids get mad when you do not want to date them?
I'm in my 30s and it seems I get hit on by women that already have kids. That's ok but most get upset when I tell them I don't date women with kids. I know in my 30s most women have kids. I had a vasectomy years ago because I don't want any kids of my own. Why would I want to help raise some other man's kid. When I tell them this they tell me I'm selfish. I may be but I'm happy and content with my life. It seems the only ppl not happy with my life is the ones who don't have to live it. My best friend who is a female says because I'm bitter that I was rejected by most women when I was younger. I tell her deep down maybe I am but also they rejected me for whatever reason now I can do the same. They also get mad when they find out my girlfriend is 20 yrs. old. My best friend and her friends hate that. None of them even thought of me that way before now why all of a sudden they care?
1 Answer
- MarvinLv 75 years agoFavourite answer
I also had a vasectomy at 21. I am now 50. I have had no problems finding women who are not interested in being mothers. I am a Buddhist, and having children is not compulsory for us, so I have had good luck dating.
All that being said, I also have been a "magnet" to women with children. I explain to them that I am not "father material", and they just say, "I do not want to take care of some other woman's children.". They also say, "I am looking for a boyfriend, not another sperm dispenser". They do kind of sound angry when they say that.
I cannot say I blame them. They want a man who is different from their previous man.
Why do they get angry? Because they do not want to date men who have children. Do not take it personally, and do not think they have any malice.
Why are they bothered because you are dating a 20 year old? Well that is a little weird, but nobodies business to start with.
Now I am married. We have no debt. We own a condo paid in full. We have a lot of stamps in our passports. Her family is good with me. I have nothing to be "bitter" or "miserable" about.
Hopefully some ladies answer. I am curious to see what they say.
edit: I also have noticed that the only people who have a problem with me not having children are other people who have children. It is mostly other men that seem to be bothered by it. Maybe it is a rivalry thing?
