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What do you think of this? Do you think my mother is in the wrong?
My niece was born yesterday which was 6 weeks early due to her mom having high blood pressure issues. My mother posted a picture on facebook saying she has been waiting on her grand daughter for many many years to get here, but she never did say the same thing about my son when he was born 2 years ago. I have had other people who has read her writing on the picture saying she has picked her favorites. My mother has mistreated me for 32 years. When I ask for money or new clothes or whatever, she never gives me any right then but when my two brothers ask for the same thing she hands out to them. Now she is saying I need to grow up before she takes my son away or have DHS to take him away among turning off tv, lights, and car. LIke I said before I always get treated like this no matter what.
Can DHS take your kid away for no reason? I mean my mother is my caregiver since I draw an disability check due to my learning in school that I never see. She won't let me get legally married due to my check getting cut off as she says.
I have been hurt for two days and I am still hurt and gets emotional at times. I don't know what to do?
6 Answers
- SparkyLv 62 years ago
Even if she is in the wrong, it doesn't sound like she will ever change.
Just deal with it and try not to let it get to you.
- FoofaLv 72 years ago
The first half of that just makes it sound like she's one of those who favored a girl over a boy. But if she's threatening to challenge you for custody of your son this all goes far more deeply apparently. One wonders if you were an adult with a stable relationship and a decent job when you had your child...because anything short of that and it's really more of a tragedy than something to celebrate.
- Emily JLv 72 years ago
If you can have a child you can get married. I would file petition in court to get a new caregiver. Maybe she just wanted a granddaughter, girls are easier to spoil. Plus is she is caring for you who is caring for this child. Very confused.
- - Mé -Lv 72 years ago
We only get half of the full story here.
If she has always mistreated you, that's a her problem, not a you problem. I'd argue that even if she's your care giver, you are entitled to look after yourself. If you aren't happy with her you can reach out for legal advice in order to get another care giver although I'd say you seem to be quite normal to me from what I read.
Parents shouldn't have favorites, but no one is born knowing how to parent. It's probably not easy having to take care after an adult child w a disability that somehow ends up pregnant. That's a lot of responsibility for a senior.
I can see how you feel your mother is unfair to you, but I can also see how all this situation is also unfair to her.
If you are on welfare why in the ever name of god you got pregnant? One shouldn't bring children into this world if you can't even take care of them. Maybe that's why your mother is resentful.
You say you have a learning disability in school, but plenty of people w disabilites get to make a decent living. Find a job, become independient and move out w your son.
- LetoLv 52 years ago
There are a lot of moving pieces to your story. My advice would be to tell your story to a family attorney or spiritual adviser. They can help you determine if your mothers actions are reasonable or if she's taking advantage or abusing you.
