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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 2 weeks ago

How do I tell my brother and his wife that they can't stay here anymore. Its time for them to find a new home?

Am I being impatient? They are having their home entirely renovated and its taking a long time because the workers there aren't doing a good job. Its been more than 2 months already. In the beginning, he said it would take them only 2 weeks and I had no problem letting my brother stay with me for that much time. But weeks has turned into months. It's gonna be 3 months on April 27. My brother doesn't work and his wife works but she left her job some time ago. They're both kinda useless. They sleep in all day, lay around and eat all the food. His wife does do a lot of work around the house. She babysits my one year old daughter, changes her and cleans the house. She helps my wife a lot but it doesn't make up for them staying here for more than 2 months. I work and pay my own bills and we can't afford more than 3 of us. They also eat a lot of food. His wife drank all the soda that I had bought and he eats a lot. I can't keep taking care of them and my wife is more annoyed than I am. Am I being impatient with them? Or do I have the right to be slightly annoyed. I can't just kick them out in the streets..I don't know what to do.

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  • 1 week ago

    Just come out and say it tell them they need to leave at the end of the month 

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 week ago

    "Hey Bro, that 2 weeks has turned into 2 months.  This is not what me and the wife signed up for.  In another week it'll be 3 months.  I'll give you till the end of May, then you got to go.  This is not working out the way we thought it would.  I think we've been more than understanding, but it's time to find a different place."

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 week ago

    How much longer till their house gets done? It should be in the construction contract when they can expect it and the company should absolutely adhere to that deadline! Why didn't they think about where they were going to say (besides your home) before deciding to have their house renovated??! Seems like an irresponsible move on their part! You need to be truthful with your brother. It's not hard! My brother is truthful with me and I don't even live with him and and his wife! You need a better more honest relationship with your brother for one thing. He's an adult and he's even married now. She works (or used to but she quit??! Then she needs to get another job NOW and so does your brother. There's just no excuse. Basic needs go first!). 

    Source(s): 37 y o Asian Filipina
  • Anonymous
    1 week ago

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  • 1 week ago

    Hmmmm...you wrote .."They are having their home entirely renovated and its taking a long time because the workers there aren't doing a good job."

    "My brother doesn't work and his wife works but she left her job some time ago." 🙄😵??!!

    You mean his wife USED to work, now none of them work, no viable source of income... they sleep until noon..so how in the hell can they afford to have their "entire home renovated"??!!

    Why can't you "just kick them out?" They are conning you and had no intentions of staying at your home for just 2 weeks. They are freeloading off of you and apparently haven't contributed a dime in 3 months time! Wise up, there is no home renovation, they don't have a home, if they actually did at one time, they don't now. It's probably been foreclosed.It'd be confirmed if you had provided more info such as do they live nearby? How far away DID they used to live? How much of their belongings did they bring with them? Have you actually accompanied them to check on their claims of "renovations?!! I bet you haven't. LOL. That's their coverup/lie excuse for having to stay at your home. You really need to see these "renovations".

    That is a very expensive undertaking!! A bathroom alone is easily $20, 000, kitchens cost even more. SMH, neither of them work and it appears they have no intentions of working. Besides the massive cost of renovating their :home", they still have to pay their mortgage payment, utilities, etc...so where in the world is all this money coming from if they can't even afford to chip in for some groceries?!

    Also, if your brother doesn't work then how or why would they have a major home reno on just one salary?! I'm almost positive that his wife does not make that much money or ever held a good job. Someone who is a high wage earner would not want a husband who doesn't work, is lazy and has no ambitions. A woman who has a high powered job wouldn't just leave her job, move in and mooch off of her in laws and sleep until noon!

    I really think they are lying to you and have lost their "home", that is if they ever owned one. Maybe they were just renting and the landlord threw them out for being deadbeats, not paying rent seeing how they don't have jobs.

    If you don't make them leave, then they will stay forever...that happens quite a bit in horror stories I have read or heard about. Good luck but if they've been freeloading at your home for that long, I don't think they plan on moving on soon.

  • 2 weeks ago

    We signed with a well regarded contractor the first week of March and outside of a little dry wall patching... absolutely nothing has been done since. Over booked. Every contractor in our region has more work than they can do. Meanwhile, supply costs across the board are rapidly increasing. We are extremely frustrated and living in a construction zone for likely two more months to come!!! It's crazy. Everyone I meet who is having work done on their home is in a similar situation. I think , "it is what it is". 

    That does not mean that your relatives get a free ride at your house for as long as it takes. That's nuts. Your relatives were simply crazy when they thought it a two week job. I've never even heard of such a thing outside of Fake TV shows. I think that your lazy brother and his wife who thinks that babysitting and picking up their own stuff is full exchange for room and board need to be presented with a different plan. Because you can not afford to support them! That is a hard cold fact that you don't have to slide on. If you two are willing to continue to share your home with them then come up with a cost point. They pay 1/3 of all household expenses. That's mortgage, utilities, food, transportation. Not a penny less. If it's simply been "enough already!", give them two week notice of their required relocation. Three months living with you for free is actually enough. It's enough. 

  • d j
    Lv 6
    2 weeks ago

    Next time send your brother to the market to buy groceries.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    You asked if you were being impatient: the answer is yes, and you should be ! Its time for them to go.   If they can afford to have their home rennovated, they can afford to pay their way for temporary rental and they're just freeloading, at your expense, literally and figuratively.  

    Your story doesn't add up: they are unemployed, but can afford to rennovate their own home?

  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    This sounds like a very weird situation. Neither of them work or contribute to the bills, but they somehow have the money to have their entire house renovated? Ok, but assuming that is true, if they have the money to have their entire home renovated, they certainly should be able to contribute to the household expenses while they are living with you, especially the grocery bills. Should you charge them rent? Maybe, but if you do it should be the equivalent of the market rate of a room rental in your area. You can calculate the increase in utility costs since they’ve been living there, and you can either require them to share the grocery bills 50/50 or to buy their own groceries. Keep in mind that what you charge them should be offset by the cost of the babysitting your sister in law does at a minimum. If her babysitting keeps you from having to put your child in daycare, that’s actually a pretty significant savings she’s giving you. In my area full time childcare for an infant easily runs $500/week or more. So make sure they get credit for that service if you want to charge them for staying with you.

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    You should have set rules and a "move-out" date before you ever agreed to let them move in. 

    You can and should set the date now. Give them time to find somewhere else, then tell them to go. 

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