Happy Marriage Or Great Sex?

Sex is very important to me but I think I would take the "happy Marriage with average sex" and do my best to tune things up.

If you are both happy with the situation then there is nothing wrong. However once one of you becomes concerned then there is a potential problem. Firstly - have you discussed this between you to establish that neither of you have an issue about this that you feel unable to discuss for fear of offending the other? Secondly do you wish to have children? (I don't need to explain the problem here). Is your husband gay? Sorry to ask but if it is and he is suppressing it there is a potential issue - he may not find you sexually interesting although he is totally happy being with you. I hope that it is actually that you both have low libidos - and therefore neither of you feel that you are missing out or feel under pressure - in which case enjoy what you have.... but as soon as one or the other feel unhappy about it - talk! and then talk more!

a rather have a happy marriage with average sex cause that is not important you can have sex with anybody but you cant be loved by anybody

good sex is essentual for happy marrige but would rather be so so happily married and get great sex somewere else