Reformed cheaters - what's worked for you?

What I did was say to myself "Would a piece of sh*t do that?" And then if they would... then I wouldn't do that thing. It's worked well.

I am glad that I read the last statement, cause I was sure going to let you have it. lol... But you have to really believe in your heart. You are the one who has to forget your past, dont worry about what other people think. To be perfectly honest, there is no such thing as "cheating" until you are married and make that promise to God. So feel it in your heart, to not do it again. And have faith and keep ya legs closed...*smile*

I think it is a few things:

1. Truly loving the person you are with. If you don't, it is easy to cheat.

2. Having a high self worth. You don't depend on someone else making you feel good.

3. Finding God. He is the ultimate healer He can and will make you a better person if you let him.

okay, so i have never cheated on anyone but i have had many firends cheat on their boyfirend or gilrfriend, and the best thing i can tell you is to have an honst realationship, you must be open...

talk to him and tell him you would like his help in the matter...tell him how you really feel and tell him about your worries...i'm sure that if he's a good guy, he'll help you out...what are you two there for any ways? you two are there to help oneanother in times like these...

i hope this might help you and i hope all goes well...

i'll keep you in my prayers

i hope i dont sound like a total dork...but you might want to consider counseling.

it will help you find out why you cheated in the past, and how to prevent it in the future. their are also many self-help books that work with insecurities. if your secure in yourself you dont have to search for love during those tough spots in relationships.

best of luck in your search! and congrats on reforming your ways! its never to late to bring out the best in yourself!

I do know this by heart ... Once a cheater - forever a cheater.

I don't get anything like terms "Reformed cheater" or even "A retired cheater"

My proof is "History repeats itself".

*Experience is my sweet bitter tutor.

i dont think youre reformed. i think your in love. youve found someone that you love and care for enough to stop doing those things. the past relationships didnt cause you to want to stop for whatever reason. congradulations. this might not mean much coming from me, but im proud. good job.

it takes time unfortunately, thats the only thing thats worked for me