Daddy does his own thing but is wrong..won't listen..HELP!?

Don't forget new daddies are new too. They have their own ideas and ways of doing things just like different moms do. When my husband thinks I'm over-reacting to things, (such as BPA free bottles and other health concerns like your're dealing with) I try to have someone else he respects reiterate their importance, such as his mother or sister so he knows its not just me being overprotective. Having the Doc back you up is great idea as well.

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Having the shoes on is a good thing, my kids have had several scrapes and cuts from not having any shoes on their soft feet...Maybe you should hide the shoes and pick his outfit out for the day along with the soft shoes you would like him to wear...

Don't have a dishwasher so I don't know how that works except make sure the cute ones aren't readily available for your husband to use for the baby

Got to get dad to take that bottle out of baby's mouth when in the crib sleeping...show him pictures of children with silver or decayed teeth and the cost of repair...or at his next dentist appointment have your dentist talk to your husband about the issue.

Lastly don't nag...they turn off the volume when we do that

i think you are overreacting a bit...he is new at this too and everyone has their own way of doing things...bottles are perfectly fine to put in the dishwasher...even the ones that aren't BPA free...its the microwave that you can't put those ones in it has nothing to do with the dishwasher...the shoes are fine too...the only big problem i see (as the granddaughter of a dentist, niece of a dental assistant, and daughter in law of a hygienist) is the falling asleep with the bottle. That is the one i would push but there really isn't a major problem with the other..remember you must pick your battle and make it worthwhile...and besides if you didn't want him to wear hard soled shoes then why did you buy them? and we even use the Non-BPA free bottles if you are that worried about it, just get rid of them if you are that paranoid...

Let him be a father. Men need to find there own way of being a father just like us women need to find our own way of being mothers. Sound like he is doing a good job, even if he is not doing everything exactly as you would do it.

Everyone is BPA Crazy. Im sure the baby will be fine with the bottles.

Bottle in the crib. While it's not the best thing to do, it will not harm your baby in the long run. Milk does not rott teeth.

I wouldn't out him to your pediatrician. It will only embarass him and will probably piss him off.

I think the ideas you have are great, but unfortunately probably all you can do. Hide the shoes, take them with you to work. Let him leave you with dirty bottles because even if he says he washed them by hand, he probably didnt. And just continue to stress the risks of sleeping with a bottle. He needs to understand the importance of not doing these things and maybe the doctor mentioning them will drill it into his bean a but more. Coming from a professional, he may take it more seriously. Hopefully. Good Luck to you!

(Not trying to rag on your man, but if he is anything like mine, he would do the same, re: the bottle washing issue)

Give him one last chance and if he doesn't stop, then don't let him have any more chances. Hide the shoes. Get rid of those bottles that shouldn't be used in a dishwasher. If you can go to the appointment with him, that would be great. The things you are trying to change aren't just your own whimsical ideas, they are well documented "don'ts" or "shouldn'ts".

Its a typical fact that people who're taught to have bonds as toddlers instruct extra compassion as an grownup. it is our job as mom and dad to instruct our toddlers issues, instruct them, clarify issues to them and stay as examples. possibly he had a time-honored teddy bear whilst he became a baby and has fond thoughts of it? those heat, snug fuzzy thoughts? She is his daughter, too... enable him have this sharing/bonding together with his daughter. The sword swings the two procedures...if she *would not* pick it, she'll ditch it. merely the comparable as her going for it if she needs it. yet she wont comprehend how heat and fuzzy and comforting that's till her daddy or mommy would not instruct it to her. Introduce a lot of issues on your baby. She'll p.c.. and choose what she likes. Your doing it backwards by way of keeping issues from her till she chooses. might it is any diverse if he gave her a e book? A rattle? A kitten? I dont comprehend...yet she's unlikely to comprehend something if her mom and dad dont introduce them to her. I grew up in a international the place little women have been onlysupposed to have dolls and tea instruments. I gave my own daughter a chemistry set (and the salesperson autmatically assumed I had a son and became frowned upon whilst i discussed I had a daughter). I additionally gave my daughter dolls, tea instruments, toy vehicles, tinker toys - you call it. I presented her to something and each thing i ought to get my palms on because of the fact i needed her to be uncovered to each thing, no longer something left out. no longer something! And now she's in scientific college...that chemistry set - that I tookk crap over giving her - became the element she chosen. you're in no way going to comprehend what shes going to love if mommy limits her alternatives and taking an merchandise from a bonding 2nd between her and her daddy from her isn't - in no way - a good thought. bypass away him on my own and enable him have this. there is no injury in what he's doing. the international is enormous. there'll many possibilities for her, many stuff forher to get involved in. yet whilst mommy limits her, you're doing her a disservice. This one element can become a priceless reminiscence for her. Dont take that faraway from her. Please.