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prodigy
prodigy asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

How can I start talking to a girl who stopped talking to me? I'm sorry I screwed up. :(?

hi,

I'm a guy.

and there is this girl.

She is a friend of mine. Well, she left for summer, never spoke to me for 3 months, and she asked me out to lunch yesterday out of the blue. She said her joints hurt, she has arthritis and it flares up sometimes. poor thing. My heart sank when i saw her. I ran to her and held her i my arms and hugged her. I helped her to my car. I took her to lunch. It was a very hot day. There is a bit of history between us. If I include that in here, everybody would get angry at me for putting a huge story here and wont leave me any comment. so I don't know what to do. I am confused and feel helpless. (If you would like to help me fix things, or atleast help me do what is appropriate, or help a fellow guy out please email me.) Include or not, how can I start talking to her? I was rather quiet during the car ride, I asked her some basic questions, how are you? where does it hurt?, show me?, meds? roommates? trip to europe?... And during lunch, I had my full attention on her. It was very hard for me especially after all what had happened, and to her it seem there was nothing wrong. She kept asking me what is wrong? Why am I acting weird? (I was especially quiet. having a hard time, putting everything that had transpired into focus, her sudden disappearance, and coming back all of a sudden and having lunch, i was visibly hurt and sad. It took me a long time to move on, put things in the past, and find healing, and suddenly she is back in my car). She felt annoyed at me. After lunch, I took her to trader joes, for her to buy some groceries, took her home, fixed her printer/computer, helped put stuff in her fridge, help clean some mess and said good bye. I feel she is still upset over how I conduct myself. I sent her a text this morning asking 'How are you?' and I received no reply.

How can I start talking to her again? What can I say? Have I lost her again? I know she hurt me., but I want to be her friend, be there for her whenever she needs me. I know it will kill me, but I have a big heart :).

Help.

Update:

Hot shot? Did you even read my question???

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    how about hi how you doing no long no see

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    k well i read everything you r wrote even though it was kinda long.

    by the way you answer didn't really help me because i have to do the speech on a person in my class that i had already chose.

    anyways...

    I think it'll really be hard for you to be friends with that girl because you still have feelings for her.

    I think you should ask her straight up why she just left you like that. It's really bother you and I'm sure she knows why your being kind of weird.

    Also don't text

    Just call her and if she doesn't pick up leave a message...that way she can't have any excuses.

    If she keeps giving lame excuses then i suggest you forget about her too.

    But there must of been a reason why all of a sudden she called and wanted to see you. I think there's a lot in her life that you don't know about.

    One other thing...If she wants to be friends with you she'll come to you. You can never force someone to be close with you.

    Hope this helped a little.

    If it didn't =[

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    go away her on my own for a mutually as. do not text fabric her first. If what you mentioned is actual and "she'll miss you like hell" in case you skipped over her, then forget approximately her, and wait till she comprises you. Then tell her which you figured she'd text fabric you while she became loose when you consider that she seems to be busy whenever you call her. with any luck, this could deliver approximately a communicate(like it frequently does) and you will tell her the way you sense. turn the tables on her.

  • Bev
    1 decade ago

    This girl seems to be using you when it is convenient for her. I would distance myself from her and let make the moves to restore your relationship. If you keep going after and she keeps ignoring you then you're only going to be more upset.

  • Ur ass smells :D
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    just talk to her ....ask her how shes doing and stuff or u can ask her to the movies or something...she probably tought u wanted to avoid her and thats y she tought u were acting weird or something..

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