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prodigy
prodigy asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

What can I say in this situation.. Can a girl please help me please?

Thanks so much for clicking on my question.

My friendship is falling apart with a friend. She ignores me and is being very cold. She just wont say anything, or respond to me at all? I have no idea why? It is so cruel, cold and painfully hurting. I mean, I wrote to her, and call her many times, send several texts her for days, try to talk to her when you bump into her (but she ignores you then, and gives you a cold shoulder, not care to even talk, don't even want to talk to you or want you there, You ask her how are you? and she gives a deep sigh! as reply,.. you offer her help with her Calc hw, and she says no, you ask her if you can atleast sit next to her and talk? she says no.. She doesn't even look at you the entire time, and has an angry and condescending demeanor (all this after being such good friends, hanging out, going running, going for dinners, movies, helping her with stuffs, fixing things, talking about stuff, being friends,.. ), when she behaves in a cruel cold fashion, and then you feel truly hurt and email her how hurtful it felt, and ask her to at least call you and when she doesn't, what can you at least say to her to bring closure to this friendship?

I genuinely thank you for your help.

I am about to text " Hi Em, I never know why you give a cold shoulder to me and ignore me in such ways. I have no clue why and you won't even say a word. its very hurtful. I only have good memories and thoughts of you. I promise i'll do whatever I can to never bother you again." -M

But before I do this, can somebody please read the email I send her yesterday? I waited all day... no response. ( I atleast wish I knew why)

Here is the email -> http://pastebin.ca/VIqHkyBJ

The decryption password for the above link is: email

Update:

Thankyou all. Thanks Whitney, I guess you are right about what you'v said.

Thanks Jason. You are right about my feelings for Em.

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  • Elizabeth12
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    maybe she is not in the mood

    stop sending a lot of messages and disturbing her (something like that) because you might make her more mad at you (if she is) because you make her irritated to you

    talk to her for some other time

    let her feel comfortable first

    Source(s): exp
  • jason D.C
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    i have no idea what your past history is like....

    but you sound like a very hurt, uncared for person, possibly very sensitive and lonely. Maybe even abandoned at some point in your life?

    you love this Em more than as friends... in your letter you almost sound like a child talking to his mother.... so wretched and painful.. i almost did not want to even read it... it hurt me to read it.

    I suppose that she can feel that you have this problem, a deep wound in your heart that causes you to do things for people - not caring for yourself in the least... somebody who does not know thier boundaries, even your own. and its a burden on her, a responsibility that is not hers.

    friends are friends. If it was a pure friend ship, she could be free to leave at any point, and you too. your letter sounded like strings and responsitbility that is unconditional.... (you bribing her with help, company... )

    i recon you need a support group.

    she cannot provide you with what you really need, and she knows it and hence does not even want to drag this suffering out any longer.

    gud luck.

  • Whitney
    1 decade ago

    Dude I am not trying to be rude here, but you are creeping her out. Too much. This is a secret, women want what they can't get. The second they receive that kind of affection they got what they wanted and move on. NOT ALL WOMEN, but 98%. Give her time to come back to you, a little dose of her own medicine would be great.

  • ?
    1 decade ago

    If she is not being a good friend, and she is being far from it by the sound of your question, you need to move on and meet other people.

    also, sending her long emails and constant texts will just make the situation worse. if she isnt replying because she doesnt want to, she isnt going to reply, except possibly to tell you to leave her alone, with persistance.

    maybe she just needs some space?

    Maybe you need to find a better friend.

  • Onuma
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Give her space I think...

    Let her be alone for she wants it now.Maybe she's having issues with herself that she wants to deal with alone.

    Sometimes some people sequester themselves to others just to think and introspect with their life and what's going on with it.

    Have you talked to you common friends about this?Maybe they can help you figure out.

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