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prodigy
prodigy asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

Do you like to have sad friend?

I ask this question, because I project a sad/sorrowful image. Its hard for me to go into details,.. but thats what I am. I have been this way for a long while. I want to change. I know I will become better one day and I am hopeful. I want joy in my life too. but right now this is me. I have very little friends because of what has happened to me and who I became over the course of last several years. Recently I went through a sickness and when I came out, my smily innocent face is all gone, i looked white and scary, skinny and had a short beard which I decided to keep trimmed (I am eating well now), but anyways, everybody's been telling me over the past years 'cheer up ....' and now the black rings under my eyes, bony tall figure and trimmed beardy face with longish hair seems to give a 'suicidal' image to friends/family.

My question is,... do you mind having a sad friend? Or does all my friend care to only have happy friends.

Thank you for your answer and time taken.

Update:

I no longer look like that young innocent like in my profile pic anymore, even though that is less than 4 months old. That picture was taken on a happy day after ( i graduated).

Anyhow the question is not about my looks alone,.. its about wanting sad friends or not. People tend to ignore me and not even care to check on me, when I most need them. At first I wanted to be alone, but now Im truly alone.

Update 2:

I should have asked,.. 'Do you mind having sad friend(s)' ?

Update 3:

bickle : I am confused with the confused message in your answer? Are you trying to say, 'No, I don't like sad friends.' And then you added that 'you like being there for people' ?? Do you know that sad friends need company too ?? Do you always talk like this to your friends in confusing answers ???

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  • dunhate235
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    Hi. "Prodigy" is a great rapper, but anyways, I digress.

    You should try to mantain a more clean physical appearance. Hit the beach and get some sun. Then hit the Hometown Buffet and gain some weight. A good physical appearance = more self confidence, and people will want to be your friend.

    Anyways, to answer your question, having a sad friend isn't really fun. I'm sorry, but I can't lie. I would much rather hang out with someone that likes to laugh and have fun. If my friend was always despondant, then it would just drain me of my joy and nothing good would come out of it.

    Now, don't get me wrong. If my friends are sad, I won't just ditch them. I would try to comfort them and help them out. However, they aren't sad constanty, while the description you wrote, made me feel that you were sad all the time. If you are sad once in a while, its much easier to be a good friend. If you are always moping around, it gradually becomes a chore and I will start drifting away.

    I'm not sure that I helped, but I gave an honest answer. Your additional details made me lol BTW :). Bickle doesn't seem very bright.

  • Soon2BNewMom
    1 decade ago

    Having sad friends who are or have been sad for a prolonged amount of time, makes me sad. I don't like to be sad because it hurts emotionally. But for my friends, its in my nature to ask what's wrong and be there for that person until they start to feel better.. I don't want to get into your business and ask what had happened to you but you should try doing things that make you happy. You should tell your friends and family that you need them in your time of need. To get support through your sadness and help you turn for the better. Life is more enjoyable when you're happy. Its hard to be happy when you're sad. Trust me, Ive been through it. But again, this is my opinion, its up to you whether you want to listen or take advice from it. :) I hope you feel better. *thumbs up* :)

    Source(s): Self experience
  • FaithBreakFree♥
    1 decade ago

    If my friend was sad i wouldnt hate her/him. I would try to help them. I know what u mean. When my mom was severly depressed, she couldnt focus at all. She couldnt drive. So when i called my friend over to pick me up for school, she could see the state my mom was in when i opened the front door for her. I would feel sad for my mom and worry about her at school. By second period, I stopped thinking of my mom but i would think about her at lunch. Now my friend avoids me a bit since i would think about my mom and other problems we had.

    I dont hate on people who are sad, but sometimes i couldnt bear to look at my mom's depressed, lifeless face. After poeple started seeing my mom life this, they started treating us differently. We have one family friend who is always there for us and we are always there for them.

    All i can say is have hope and show your real happy self.

    I think it takes strong people to analyze someone else's deep problems

    all i can say is have hope

    Source(s): experiance
  • ceja
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Yes I have as it is not a excellent factor for them to consider and it makes me unhappy and I realize they're disenchanted principally in the event that they begin crying than I wish to begin crying with them + I frequently say whatever to cause them to snigger..

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i don't no i like being there for people

    edit: lol sorry i didn't realize how confusing i was

    i don't mind having a sad friend no, i like being there for people is what i meant

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