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My colleague is emotion and getting personal for work...?
I have a female colleague who is in her early 40+. She is single and have been working here, leaving her country for years.. She was my 'buddy' when i joined the company under buddy system. We get along well at first... but for some unknown reason, she stop talking to me. The jobs hand over has changed from one to one coaching to hand over via email. This frustrate me as i have no idea when did i offened her. I tried to patch back but she just do not talk more other than work related issue. However, she is getting more personal and she starts passing message to me via third party. This irriates me a lot as this is unprofessional. I am suspectign she throwing away my apple which i leave on my desk for few days as she complained to another colleague that it attracts 'fly'. I have not idea how could a fresh apple attract fly which store market usually display for weeks. What should i do to stop this ...
3 Answers
- nuclear-greenLv 61 decade agoFavourite answer
Speak with her when she is alone and ask her.
Wait for the best time, early in the morning, lunch or whenever she is alone.
First tell her that you got along with her well.
Then tell her that something has happened and that you have no idea but that it upsets you and you would like to have a normal relationship with her.
She would probably be a bit embarassed, and she should be.
It could be that she is jealous of your work or something she would not like to admit,
but she should at least realise that she is behaving childish when you talk with her.
All the best
- 1 decade ago
Hi, there may be many reasons for this behavior.On Positive side she dont want to get along. On the negative side some of your silly action should have triggered the button, whihc might be silly for you as well as for her.She may not want to dicsuss the same as this may bring her stature down.These issues if discussed may make her feel more insecured, So she started framing you on the bad books of her.Best way of getting away is (if you really know her well and when not to push the conversation too much and when to stop it) have a word with your ego at low.This may help her to ease out and speak to you.The easy way to get things straight.But if she is adamant in holding her point and dont want to get convinced, you got nothing to do from your side.You have to depart in a noble and generous way saying let we not be as buddies, but let we stop being like enemies (though we are not:-)). No one can set things straight unless the person in talk decides.
This is my own perceptions of this emotional outburst which is pretty common and which is pretty much solvable unless we dont let things to alienate.
Farewell.Never let your spirits down by external forces.
Mind does mattters.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
perhaps you have a hygiene problem? check it out and then ask her face to face if you have done something to upset her. have you tried it on with her???