I absolutely hate going to church?

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I am 13 years old and every Sunday, my dad makes me go to church. My parents are divorced, so when I'm with my mom, she doesn't make me and thinks that if I want to go, I should, and if I don't want to go, I don't have to. But with my dad, I used to ask him if I couldn't go (I didn't ask often), but now I just don't ask cuz I know he'll say no. I also got baptized, but not that recently. He says to me "Why'd you get baptist then if you don't enjoy church?" And I think I only got baptized cuz when my dad asked me if I wanted to, I just wanted to get it out of the way. He always asked me. But anyways, at church, almost everyone there is older than me by far in the group we're in. Only a few aren't, and they're all annoying, no joke. Not over reacting. And I want to be good friends with someone MY age. My brother is friends with all of them cuz he's older AND he's an extravert. Im an introvert sorta. I just always sit by myself cuz I just feel like an outsider. And I don't tell my dad cuz then he'll probably say it's my fault and that I need to mingle more. And it might be my fault, I don't know. I just don't want to go. I know like no one and my brother knows everyone and always fits right in with everyone. Plus, I hate when we have to sing in church, so I just lip sing. Overall, I just don't want to go. Any solutions?

Update:

I know I shouldn't have gotten baptized then. I realized that after I said yes. But I couldn't just back out of it and tell my dad, "Oh, I don't want to get baptized after all, I'll just back out of it." ????? Uh, no.....

? · Accepted Answer

Show your dad in the bible where Jesus requires you to hate him. Jesus said: "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple." - Luke 14:26
Ask him why he is a member of a cult that demands you hate your own family.

Dennis Sagt · Answer

I don't mean this in a scolding manner and I know it's easier said that done -- change your attitude.  The main reason for a church service is to worship, not to fraternize. 
I assume you love your Dad.  Go out of love for him.  I'm sure he sacrifices for you.  Return the favor. 
You could be going to the dentist once a week.  I'd rather go to church.

? · Answer

At your age all you can do is ask not to go.  Yeah, it sucks but you only have to go with your dad.  I really don't understand why you got baptized though.

Mariana F · Answer

well, when i was at your age, i'd prefer watching tv rather than go to church. but my parents found that going to church is very important, our religion is very important.
they'd be very angry if i started to sulk about it, but one think that i got, and i found it's true. that we have a week, consists of seven days, breathing non stop, enough food, sometimes even got a chance to go to a cinema to watch a movie, or playing a psp, every goodness a child could get from their parents. 
but why can't we at least sit for 2 hours, once a week, every Sunday, to thank the Big Guy for all of the kindness we got?
coz, let's face it, not everyone as lucky as you are, got everything that you could get from your parents.

i know it's hard, adding the fact that your parents are divorced, but lets find a reason to be thankful enough just once in a week, for two hours top.

may that helps.

YY4Me · Answer

Tell him to read Matthew 6:5-7.

Anonymous · Answer

Get yourself an M1911 and shoot your "dad" multiple times in the head. 

It worked for me.

:)

Creeping Malaise · Answer

Crap in your pants on the way to church.

I absolutely hate going to church?

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