Toxic parent...what to do?

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i have tried to maintain a relationship with my dad in spite of his abusive nature. there have been many many instances where i was hurt and in disbelief...lots of control and demeaning/belittling behavior etc. i tried thinking hes the only father i would ever have and i would regret it if i didnt. anyway...the last incident was the last straw and i dont think there is a way to have a relationship with him without being hurt. so...any experience with this? how did you feel afterwards? repurcussions? tried anything that worked without completely undermining your dignity? thanks! also...pretty sure he has antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic

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be the better man (or woman if you're a girl, I learned you can't really tell gender for sure even if people have male/female usernames)

At least you know what he's doing is wrong and it wouldn't hurt to speak out and say he's being rude for no reason.

It may also be a good idea to be a bit cold for now. Give one words answers, don't go out of your way to talk to your dad, only interact with him when it is absolutely necessary. 

There are so many people who are difficult to deal with so I feel for you somewhat.

Good luck. Now at least you know how NOT to treat your kids in the future

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Hey Hun, he sounds exactly like my dad..

I have tried talking to him and get nothing in return, it was either put up with the abuse and feel **** about myself or cut him out of my life.

I feel good now I don't have to put up with him, unfortunately this affects my relationships with other members of my family.

The problem with personality disorders is they are hard to diagnose and almost completely untreatable, so if he has NPD/ ASPD nothing is likely to change.

I don't know what to suggest..

Toxic parent...what to do?

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