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This has been the cause of the end of a relationship for me. Even though it's almost been a month, I haven't been doing so well. It has been because I'm a very self-absorbed person, and I don't doubt it. My dad has said the same thing about me while I was feeling the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder. My psych assessment identifies me as a person who lives in isolation and prefers to live in isolation. I don't doubt that I'm an isolated person, except I usually want to have a special someone in my life. Even beforehand, I've acknowledged that I'm an introvert, and I usually enjoy time for myself.

What are the ways that I can take to genuinely become less self-absorbed? By that, I don't mean the list of things I should do when interacting with people. I want to genuinely change myself, so that my lack of self when interacting with others is as natural as possible.

Also, about this relationship. It was last month on the 23rd of December that she told me she had enough of her own personal problems that she couldn't handle the commitment, but still loved me. It was until last Tuesday that she no longer expressed such feelings for me. To be fair, I kind of blew it. I was being my self-absorbed self, and tried to tell my problems to her, despite her already having enough of her own. Ever since, she has denied the feelings she had for me were true, and I really doubt it. She has been telling me that she's a sociopath incapable of love. Somehow, I've been the exception to that during the months together.

How could I truly transform myself into a more selfless person? Is it a good idea for me to fight for a second chance?

This has been the cause of the end of a relationship for me. Even though it's almost been a month, I haven't been doing so well. It has been because I'm a very self-absorbed person, and I don't doubt it. My dad has said the same thing about me while I was feeling the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder. My psych assessment identifies me as a person who lives in isolation and prefers to live in isolation. I don't doubt that I'm an isolated person, except I usually want to have a special someone in my life. Even beforehand, I've acknowledged that I'm an introvert, and I usually enjoy time for myself.

What are the ways that I can take to genuinely become less self-absorbed? By that, I don't mean the list of things I should do when interacting with people. I want to genuinely change myself, so that my lack of self when interacting with others is as natural as possible.

Also, about this relationship. It was last month on the 23rd of December that she told me she had enough of her own personal problems that she couldn't handle the commitment, but still loved me. It was until last Tuesday that she no longer expressed such feelings for me. To be fair, I kind of blew it. I was being my self-absorbed self, and tried to tell my problems to her, despite her already having enough of her own. Ever since, she has denied the feelings she had for me were true, and I really doubt it. She has been telling me that she's a sociopath incapable of love. Somehow, I've been the exception to that during the months together.

How could I truly transform myself into a more selfless person? Is it a good idea for me to fight for a second chance?

I get annoyed when people try to justify not caring about mass shootings by comparing it to multiple isolated single deaths, which they use its everyday occurrence to denounce the significance of a mass shooting.

What can I include in my argument? I've already taken care of the counter-argument to comparisons to developing countries, but within the US, what makes a mass shooting more significant than single, isolated shootings?

My girlfriend revealed to me that she is anorexic and is willing to listen to me for help. She had been telling people that she's on a diet plan responsible for her weight loss progress, which I should have kept my suspicion that the weight loss rate was beyond the safe rate, so that isn't true. She had been losing weight from starvation.

She has a desired weight that she's only part way there. I've told her that she could start recovering from anorexia by gradually increasing the breakfast meal in small increments. The problem is the widespread word that recovering from anorexia comes with inevitable weight gain.

Is there a way for her to recover from anorexia without gaining weight? I just have a feeling she will stubbornly stick to the path to her desired weight. I just don't want her to start recovering from anorexia, and then stop the recovery because of the weight gain pressuring her back to starvation. I've told her repeatedly that she doesn't need to worry about her weight that much because I love her in every way, but she's telling me it's not because of me, but because she just hates her body the way it is now. I'd just like to know if there's a way to not gain weight while gradually adjusting away from anorexia.

If it really is literally impossible to recover from anorexia without gaining weight, how can she minimize the weight gain? Are there comforting thoughts that can help her cope with the temporary weight gain that comes with recovery from being anorexic? such as the idea that the weight gain is water mass (not sure if that actually is true).

This is a long-distance relationship, and I will be seeing her in two months, so keep in mind that what I can do to help may have limits, but I'm willing to make the best out of it.

It's a cool night outside, and my room is still quite hot even with my windows open. My room is the only room in the house where the no wind goes through the window. How should I cool my room down?

Left my windows while during the day, and now my room temperature is above comfort zone. Now that it has cooled down significantly outside for the night, how should I maximize cool air flow from outside?

Because the way this house is shaped, my window doesn't usually get good air flow from outside. I only have a fan to assist, but the height of the fan is below the window.

I've always wondered about authenticity to this.. I guess you could call it a stereotype. There's been pictures comparing a Canadian officer in Toronto participating in a water gun battle, which turned out to be the Pride event, against a picture of the picture of Lt. Pike watering his garden of students with pepper spray. That is a powerful contrast. But I understand the power of rhetoric. This could be truth expressed with the comparison of two extremes, or it could be distortion.

It has even affected me on a personal level, where I feel infuriated when I see video clips originating from the United States of police members tax collecting and not protecting and serving. That is as opposed to my reaction to the similar situations except these videos originating in Canada. My reaction to those videos is that I see them as just one or two rotten apples in a truckload full of good apples. I've personally felt obligated to defend the police in YouTube comments when there was a video of the news that a Canadian officer was stabbed and was expected to recover.

Before I go onto looking at actual numbers like I've been studying during my university study months, I want to see what you have to say about this. Is police corruption less of a problem in Canada than in the United States? Or maybe, is police corruption even a significant problem in the United States? I'm talking about the possibility that YouTube is filled with videos that highlight the rainy moments in American policing, without the context that the majority of American police members may have some sense of decency.

I'm a Canadian citizen at home, and my home Internet connection has lately been targeted for a DDoS attack. The motive is ridiculous. It's a bunch of skiddies playing in an online game server. The competitive nature of this game, combined with their access to IP acquisition and DDoS tools, has led them to start knocking anyone they don't like off the internet. I've seen many people in that game server suddenly disconnect, then return accusing the same people for DDoS.

If it's just a single incident, I wouldn't have thought about legit reporting it to the authorities. But now, there are multiple people, probably a two-digit number, whose connections are frequently under attack.

As someone in Canada, am I still able to report this to the IC3 or the FBI?

And once again, it's the essay course that kills it for me. I've done well in all other courses, but didn't make it through the essay course. Even worse, it had to be during my academic probation period. So it's inevitable that I will be required to withdraw for at least 12 months.

I know it's going to end up with the need for a job to cover the debt from OSAP and preferably possible future tuition fees. Instead of bringing this to my parents and getting a demotivational speech (they're good at that), I'd just like to plan ahead of what happens when I can apply for admission to any university again. I still maintain my intention to have a degree in the future.

Currently studying economics at the University of Western Ontario, but my home's in Markham, where I've been considering the switch to York University.

I'd just like to ask about an overview of the application process. Is it still based on my high school grades from 3 years ago? Will any of my grades from university be considered in the application process?

I'd also like to know just how much the "required to withdraw" affects my job hunt. Precisely whether the fact that some university was completed would boost my chances, or the withdraw hurting my chances at the job hunt.

Right now, I can hear the TV in the kitchen still being on and at a loud volume. It's not that I can fully, definitely hear it, but it's more of a drowned out sound, yet still audible to me. This has happened a few times before, and I'm starting to wonder if it should be any serious concern, especially if it develops into a more severe issue.

I usually hear these hallucinations (if it should be considered one) during the quiet time at night, but I can hear sound from other parts of the house as if it's during the busy time of the day. There's nothing new in the sound, just generic background noise that I know through intuition is not real.

Reason why this has come to my attention is a recent incident involving my brother that had him admitted to the mental health part of the hospital for the weekend. Several of my relatives also have some sort of minor mental illness. So it would be reasonable to think I'm also susceptible to some sort of mental illness too.

Obviously, I didn't reply to those messages, but here's more details on those messages.

They were all sent within the same minute, and none of the numbers were the same. But the area codes of the numbers are all pretty much scattered over the US (I'm in Canada).

662 - I know kung fu.

920 - Blue. It's very... blue.

651 - Stop texting me!

786 - Dude, help me get this possum out of my living room.

774 - You need to man up.

774 - I just wished for a bagel. It didn't come true.

714 - Dude, help me get this possum out of my living room.

931 - Your hands area really hairy.

716 - Life... is a kumquat.

928 - I have a mustache, but you do not have a mustache.

I looked up the area codes. They are from:

Northern Mississippi, eastern Wisconsin, Saint Paul Minnesota, Miami-Dade county, Commonwealth of Massachusetts, Orange County California, middle Tennessee, Rochester NY area, and Arizona.

It's a mystery, but anybody wanna guess what's going on?

I'm totally serious on this question.

It seems like I've been seeing a few things when I sleep. I'll list them. At this point, I'm quite skeptical about all this being a coincidence after another.

1. I was at a 3 day school trip last year. When I fell asleep at around midnight, I had a vision of two of my friends in another room (actually across from my room) and saw exactly what happened for ten seconds. One of them was being an idiot as usual, happened to his his head on the wall as he made his way for the bed, while the other was by the window. The next morning, they could confirm that what I saw was true.

2. I also have an online friend. Because of distance, we've never met in person. Some time last year, I had a dream I was looking for her at her school. Decided the best way to find her was to find her locker, so I asked around for her locker number. What I gathered was that her locker is on the first floor (starts with 1) and had 0s and 2s in. By mistake, I came up with 1102 (which doesn't follow the guidelines, hence the mistake). Talked about this with her the next day, and here's the comparison. 1102 vs 1022. Her actual 1022 number follows the first floor, 0s and 2s things I gathered from the dream before I did it wrong with constructing the finalized number.

3. Another day, I was home alone when there was a temporary power outage. Because just about everything I do at home requires power, I eventually did get a bit bored, so I decided to take a nap. Decided to know when the power is back on by turning the light switches on. I did nap, and had what probably was a two second dream. I saw hooded figures circling around my bed, with the lights on. I got a bit startled, and woke up, but as soon as I woke up, I saw my room go from dark to bright.

These three are the ones I feel like sharing. The others are experiences I feel that it's easy to be skeptical about, or it's a bit personal.

Here's the thing. I have a habit of flipping bottles and catching it without letting it fall. However, this morning, things took on a different turn.

I slept less than six hours (I the kind of person who is happy with eight to ten hours of sleep).

I was about to work on my assignments on my laptop after I got my breakfast. My closed laptop (still on standby mode) was sitting on the table with a good distance from my Starbucks coffee (grande cafe latte). For some reason, I decided to take out my bottle of water as well. So I did my usual flip, but this time, it knocked my coffee over.

I suspect the damage is very little. The laptop was closed, so I managed to get it mostly wiped. off. However, the coffee might have entered my laptop through the ports on the left side left side of my laptop. That's where my power adapter goes, my internet, and my second screen goes.

When I turned it on, because I didn't think there would be any damage, the startup screen shows text that the computer couldn't determine the wattage from the power adapter.

What are the things I should do that might substitute bringing this to a repair shop?

On Friday, I was part of the team making the school concert work as planned, and it did go well. However, I did spend quite a bit of time lifting big stacks of chairs, and heavy instruments.

Although I have read articles disproving that compression isn't related to getting shorter, I may have been a bit paranoid about my height, since there are a few things around that is usually at eye level, and today, it seemed different, maybe because I really did get "compressed", or it's just me distorting my memories.

Why is this such a big deal to me? I'm a quarter year away from being 18, and my goal is to reach 1 to 1.5 inches taller before I'm fixed with my height. It's just me blending in with the current average height.

There was a link on a YouTube video to an e-book that says that a few brands of athlete's food (anti-fungal) treatments can be trusted to cure acne within days. I have seen the video comments, but I can't really get myself to trust the "WOW! OMG!" tone.

The link is:

http://acnecontroltreatment.com/site/page1.aspx

I downloaded the e-book before they put the price tag back on. Since I don't think it's really fair for me to go around spreading the fine details from that book around with its $7 price tag on, I'll stay out of the details, but it says that there's an ingredient, Tolnaftate, that many other acne treatments have overlooked, and it can really cure up those spots.

Does this sound a little far-fetched? Even if it is, can anyone really confirm this? It feels weird if I'm going to put cream on my face that's usually used on the foot

Just one more thing... My face was doing fine during the summer until... Halloween. It all came back at me.

I'm using Rogers for my cell phone, and currently, I have a cheap $3 plan for 35 monthly messages. Obviously, that isn't enough.

The plan can be found here. http://www.rogers.com/web/content/wireless-plans/e...

I just can't seem to find what I'm asking for in the FAQ.

So I'm planning to get more messages, but I also want to know about this.

I have friends who do live quite a distance from here. Two questions:

a) From here in Markham, Ontario to Oakville (Fido, still part of Rogers)

b) From here to another province, Rogers phone to Rogers.

Would those text messages be included in my 35/125/2500 text messages plan? Or would they charge me extra?

See, I'm about to leave for a week to the States from Canada. My mom doesn't want me bragging to everyone that nobody's going to be home for a week, so fine, I'll give that to her.

But I'm slightly worried that a friend might send me a text message any time during the week. Just to make sure, will Rogers charge an extra fee if they send me a text message?

There's a girl who sits next to me in music, and for the last few weeks, I've been noticing the exchanges of eye contact for a short moment. So there's the obvious thing out of all this.

There's usually nothing said between both of us except for questions that 'need' to be answered. There's a big lack of the casual, easy-going conversations.

I decided recently that I should really do something about this, but whenever I get my chance to speak up, I'm stuck speechless.

Even today, she was standing with her friends on the sidewalk where I pass everyday to get home. There was that eye contact, smile. Like stagefright, I had no reaction and I feel like a total idiot walking by like that.

Does anyone have any idea how I should break the silence? or even put up a play involving my friends. I'm not afraid to pull my usual band of friends into this, as they've already discussed and solved someone else's similar situation to this.

My pecs are somewhat developed. Although I answer more than I ask in this topic, I came across a situation where I thought it's my turn to ask.

How often should I do push-ups? I do bench presses from time to time, but push-ups are more frequent. I just got the Wii and the WiiFit today, and I think it turned me into a push-up addict.

Goal: To get more upper body muscle mass. At the same time, I don't over-bulk myself that I'll have difficulty reaching my back. I still want to preserve force and speed.

If I have any details missing, let me know and I'll fill it in ASAP.

For almost two weeks, I have been using AcneFree 3-step treatment, because Googling shows that it's better, and it's more accessible, while ProActiv is only available through ordering and shipping. I can't honestly say it's too effective.

Just minutes ago, my mom came back with a tiny bottle of tea tree oil. It should be used on that "hole" after the spots get properly squeezed.

Is it a good idea to use the two treatments at the same time?

Just some details on what AcneFree contains.

AcneFree Renewing Toner (Step 2):

Removes dead skin cells and excess oils to keep pores clean.

SD Alcohol 40, 'Witch Hazel', Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice, Polysorbate 20, PPG-20 Methyl Glucose Ether, Niacinamide (Vitamin B3), MSM, Lactic Acid, Chamonilla Recuita Extract, Sodium Borate, Methylisothiazolinone, Panthenol (Pro-Vitamin B5), Copper PCA, Disodium EDTA, Menzethonium Chlorate

Step 3: BP Liquid

Penetrates pores to dry up blackhead blemishes and existing acne

3.7% Benzoyl Peroxide